I sent an email to Bethany, an old friend of mine, asking her to tell me a couple of things that guys do either when they approach her or when they are in a relationship with her that really annoy her or put her off.
I was expecting to get a pretty short list, but what I ended up with was a very revealing rant about men and dating.
Keep in mind that Bethany is an awesome, drop-dead-gorgeous woman, so if this is the kind of woman you are looking for, you should really take what she says to heart!
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You wanted to know what turns me OFF, so I’ll tell you …
There are two things that guys tend to do that really put me off.
They seem to either be too afraid to be themselves around me or they try being all cocky.
It would be wrong for me to say that I didn’t like guys who are cocky. There is a sense of danger and adventure that these guys have that I really like, but I tend to lose interest in them really quickly.
I get bored with the whole idea of “danger” pretty quickly. It’s as if there is nothing more to their personality than their cockiness, and if I had been involved with them for something more than a one night stand, then I start to feel a little bit cheated.
It makes me wonder what attracts me to these guys in the first place, so now I just try to avoid people like that. I know that these kinds of guys CAN turn me on, but I have decided to just avoid them for my own emotional well-being.
But you know what’s worse?
Guys who probably do have a personality, but are just too wimpy to express themselves.
This is so weird to me, because a lot of my guy friends have asked me how to be better with women and I always give them the same answer: just be yourself!
I know I’m not the only girl in the world who thinks that this is really the best way to win a girl’s heart.
A woman wants a man who is honest about himself, not some loser who isn’t confident enough in his personality to be real. Now you guys know what dating mistakes you should avoid.
I know plenty of guys, bless their hearts, who are really great, friendly, awesome people, but when they are around girls who they are attracted to, that all goes right out the window.
They freeze up, they fidget, and they feel like there is something “cool” or “sexy” that they should be talking about. They put on this front that is just not who they are, and we can see right through that. It doesn’t help their cause.
I tell them all the time to just be the way they are around me, but they just won’t do it.
I’m so sick of guys who try to be something that they are not. You have no idea what a let-down that is… discovering that the guy you were so into is actually a completely different person.
BE YOURSELF. It’s that simple! That’s the best dating advice.
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