I’ve been getting a whole bunch of emails like these, so I’m going to save you guys a whole bunch of time and just go ahead and answer them all at the same time.
– Question #1 –
I am recently getting back into the dating world after about a 5 year break, and I have to tell you, it’s not going too well.
I didn’t really even know where to begin, so I asked some buddies of mine who seem to be pretty good with approaching women, and they all tell me that the bar is where it’s at – that that’s where all the beautiful women are.
So, I’ve been going to the bar about three times a week trying to get phone numbers and it hasn’t really been working out for me. Sure, I get a couple of phone numbers every once in a while, but I’ve got to be honest – I hate going to the bar.
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I’m just not the kind of person who likes being in a really crowded place, has to wait around for the bar tender, and I’m not that much of a drinker.
But I want to be able to meet women!
Is there some way that I can condition myself to enjoy being in bars so that I don’t feel all weird being there in the first place? I feel like that would really help my chances with the women there.
– Question #2 –
I recently attended a boot camp run by one of the top guys in PUA. It was a really cool experience, and I feel like I learned a lot, but I’ve been having a really hard time applying ‘attracting women tips’ and all that stuff on my own.
For example, while I was there I learned an opener and our instructor showed us all how it was done. I watched him approach a girl, use this routine, and have her all over him in no time. I decided to try it out, and over the next few days, time and time again I would get shot down.
So, I decided maybe it was because I was approaching straight 10s, and I needed to take a step back. I started approaching women who were less attractive and still had exactly the same amount of success, which was basically none.
This was so frustrating, since I saw someone use this exact same routine right in front of my eyes!
What am I doing wrong? Any advice?
—> MY COMMENTS
It’s always fascinating for me to read these kinds of questions, because the answer to both emails seems so obvious.
And I always wonder: why these guys just don’t get it?!
It’s easy to forget that I was there, too.
I had those same kinds of questions and wrote those same kinds of questions because I needed HELP.
No DUH they don’t get it! I didn’t get it either!
But enough about that.
These guys both wrote me about what seems like very different situations.
But they aren’t. They are the SAME.
While the challenges they are facing seem different on the surface, there is a core element that neither of these guys are addressing.
If they understood this one basic principle, they wouldn’t keep running their heads against the wall, time and time again.
They don’t understand how to BE THEMSELVES and do it in such a way that they attracts beautiful women.
So let’s talk about it!
Here are some of my key ideas:
- Women have a much better sense of who is BEING HIMSELF and who isn’t than men do.
- Women are immensely attracted to guys who are BEING THEMSELVES.
- You can’t BE YOURSELF if you are in an environment that makes you uncomfortable
- You can’t BE YOURSELF when you feel like you have to use pick-up lines to attract a beautiful woman.
If these guys just understood these principles, they wouldn’t even be doing things like going to venues that they feel uncomfortable with or trying to run pick-up lines that aren’t in touch with their personalities.
Instead, they would be going places that they genuinely enjoyed being at AND meeting women and establishing meaningful connections and causing women to be IMMENSELY attracted to them simply because they are having fun doing what they love to do.
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